Men have abdicated their God-ordained leadership roles, producing chaos and confusion in the wake of this abandonment. The family structure, with assigned orders of responsibility (not orders of importance implying superiority or inferiority), is paramount to God’s plan. The family structure was intended to mirror the Divine spiritual structure with Christ submitting to God the Father and the Church submitting to Christ. In the family, the husband submits to Christ and the wife submits to her husband –see Ephesians 5: 25 – 29

The Father

  • In biblical view, as Christ is over the Church so is every man (as a father) over his house. As Christ loves the Church, the husband is commanded to love his wife as he loves his own body, sacrificing for her and protecting her, regarding her as co-regent and chief counselor, delegating essential complementary duties to her (Gen 2:18; I Peter 3:7)
  • In Colossians 3: 19, the man is prohibited from being a pompous tyrant (intimidating his wife and provoking his children to wrath), but he is enjoined to provide leadership and make decisions, mirroring Christ’s relationship to the Church (Eph 5: 29; 6: 4).
  • As men assume their roles as leaders of families, this also extends into the church and into the community. As men abdicate this responsibility, women have been forced to fill the leadership vacuum, contrary to God’s intention (I Tim 5: 8). As we fulfill our God-ordained family roles, we qualify to become joint heirs with Jesus Christ, ruling over the entire universe.

 The Mother

  • The primary call of the wife in the Christian home to be submissive to her husband as the Church to Christ, showing good demeanor for home management (Ruth 4: 11; Titus 2: 5; Prov. 14: 1; 31: 15).
  • She is to be modest in her outlook with a meek and quiet spirit (I Peter 3: 1 – 5). Not given to worldly pleasure (I Tim 5: 6, 13), but to love her husband and her children (study Prov. 31: 10 – 31)

The Children

The children are commanded to obey their parents in the Lord (Col. 3: 20; Eph 6: 1 – 3). This is the fifth commandment (Ex 20: 12). God adds in Deut. 27: 16 that Cursed is anyone who treats his father or his mother with contempt. A child’s response to this relationship will in large measure determine his later response to broader relationships in society and beyond that to God Himself.